Fear, Obligation and Guilt
Often our lives are characterised by FOG: fear, obligation and guilt. In many cases, this involves other people. That is what this blog post deals with. It concerns how to limit fear to the unavoidable, remove obligation when it is incorrectly placed and replace guilt when it is unjustified. Fear Who are you afraid of? Are family, friends or co-workers controlling you with your own fear?...
Read MoreIs Deception ‘All in the Mind’?
For those of you – like me – interested in the heady mix of lie-detection and body language, there was a great piece on BBC Radio 4′s All in the Mind last week. Here’s the blurb. “Trying to spot when somebody is telling lies has probably preoccupied mankind since the earliest humans. Who’s eaten more than their fair share of seeds and berries; who’s...
Read MoreThe Body Language of Honesty
I was tempted to call this blog, “All men Are Liars!” because that’s the finding of a recent poll. Or, at least, men are bigger liars when compared to women. One of the reasons for this is that men are less easily made feel guilty than women. Men can justify their lies better. How? We’re not told. Probably due to a lesser empathy quotient. Readers of this blog...
Read MoreEmotional Intelligence at Work
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is more than a sign of the times or the latest management movement – although it is both. Next week, I will be delivering a workshop at QUB on EI. This is an outline of what we will be considering. Work has changed to become more personal and pressurised than ever before. There is a recognition that raw brain-power is not enough… and never has...
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