Proof For ‘Fake It Until You Make It’!
It’s the stuff of cheesy, pop-psychology legend. ‘Fake it until you make it’! Yeah, right! Excuse me if I refuse the snake oil and select a sick bag instead. Only one problem. It seems to be true. First there was Aristotle: “Men acquire a particular quality by constantly acting a particular way. We become just by performing just actions, temperate by performing...
Read MoreFear, Obligation and Guilt
Often our lives are characterised by FOG: fear, obligation and guilt. In many cases, this involves other people. That is what this blog post deals with. It concerns how to limit fear to the unavoidable, remove obligation when it is incorrectly placed and replace guilt when it is unjustified. Fear Who are you afraid of? Are family, friends or co-workers controlling you with your own fear?...
Read MoreIs Deception ‘All in the Mind’?
For those of you – like me – interested in the heady mix of lie-detection and body language, there was a great piece on BBC Radio 4′s All in the Mind last week. Here’s the blurb. “Trying to spot when somebody is telling lies has probably preoccupied mankind since the earliest humans. Who’s eaten more than their fair share of seeds and berries; who’s...
Read MoreThe Body Language of Honesty
I was tempted to call this blog, “All men Are Liars!” because that’s the finding of a recent poll. Or, at least, men are bigger liars when compared to women. One of the reasons for this is that men are less easily made feel guilty than women. Men can justify their lies better. How? We’re not told. Probably due to a lesser empathy quotient. Readers of this blog...
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